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The author writes that the idea of female purity is basically just a fake tool used by men to control & put down women. She argues that "purity" is pretty much arbitrary and subjective so women shouldn't bother with "purity" and just do what they want with whoever they want. This article mentions another article on "purity" culture here - which I also read.
My reaction after reading these articles was sadness & anger; sadness at the way women are devalued and made to feel unwanted and worthless and anger towards the people who cause these feelings. As a Christian, I truly believe that Satan has used our culture to warp and twist sexuality, purity and human value and we are seeing the results in the relationships between men & women. These are not new problems or ideas, of course, but the lies are being spread in new ways thanks (in part) to advertising, social media, tv & internet, etc. So let me say, if you have ever been told or have felt that you are worthless because of choices or actions that people consider "unpure", that is a lie. You are not worthless, you are loved.
First of all, I don't believe the idea of purity is completely arbitrary & meaningless at all. If it was, it wouldn't matter to us so much in the first place! Purity is an important quality but it is not the measure of a woman's worth. There is no perfect example of purity on this earth; it's unattainable (we are sinful, fallen creatures!). Christ is the only true source & example of purity. (He was tested by Satan himself - Matthew 4:1-11). After thinking about it for awhile, I realized that neither women nor men are being treated in the way that God planned - women are obviously not being loved in the right ways and in turn, men are not being respected. A woman's value is NOT based on her purity or her ability to have children, just as a man's value is NOT based on ownership or control over a woman. Whether you believe it or not, your worth & value as a person (female or male) comes from the fact that you are loved by God. So much so, in fact, that He died and sacrificed his life so that you & I could have the hope of eternal life in relationship with Him. (John 3:16)
Trusting in Christ, I believe I have been called to strive for purity in my own life. Not as a way to prove how "good" or "holy" I can be (because heaven knows I don't succeed), but because my God asks it of me & I want to be obedient to Him. Because He loves me unconditionally and has proved himself faithful, I want to live my life in a way that glorifies Him. So, with all of that said, sisters & brothers in Christ I hope this can be a reminder for us to strive to live our lives in such a way that we reflect our Creator and not the twisted world that we live in.
Just a few thoughts I wanted to share - thanks for reading all the way to the end! http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=john%203:16&version=NIV